You asked: Does the “human” side of you clash with the “other”? Or do they fit seamlessly together? (What a great question!)
I answer: mu. The question doesn’t make sense when viewed through my experience. As well ask if my computer skills clash with my cooking skills, or if my right-handedness conflicts with my eye color. Sometimes it is hard to squash down on a nonhuman reaction. Sometimes it is very hard to remember to act or react in a human way, but neither of those is an internal clash. Both are examples of my self meeting society’s expectations. I do not clash with myself (not this way, anyway.) I can argue with myself just fine over other things, but in all cases it’s all of me - human-other - on all sides, not human here, other there. I do clash with what people expect me to be. But that is just one person’s experience; I am sure there are many more perspectives!